Posted by: Omar C. Garcia | July 28, 2011

Friends With Benefits

It’s rare that I have time to go to the theater to watch a movie. With few exceptions, the only movies I have seen over the past several years are the ones offered on flights. Given the fact that I fly a little more than two-hundred thousand miles a year, I have had the opportunity to enjoy some good and thought-provoking movies on those long international flights. But, while relaxing in front of the television at home this past week I saw something that disturbed me — the movie trailer for a newly released movie called “Friends With Benefits.” Billed as a romantic comedy, the story line is about a young man and a young lady who meet each on the rebound from broken relationships. They agree to have a friendship with the added benefit of sex and nothing more. What I found most offensive was the scene where Dylan and Jamie seal their agreement to have a friendship with sexual benefits. This is how the scene plays out…

As Jamie leaves the room for a moment, Dylan asks her where she is going. “I’m pulling up my Bible app,” Jamie replies as she reaches for her iPad. Then, with a picture of the Bible on the screen of her iPad she says, “I’m a good girl.” And then both of them place their hands on the Bible and swear that they will be friends with “no relationship, no emotions, just sex.” Once they swear to these terms on the Bible, Jamie says to Dylan, “Now, let’s go to the bedroom,” followed by an exchange about whether they should have their first sexual encounter in the bedroom or on the sofa.

This scene is disturbing on several levels.

First, the irony of making a commitment to only have sex with each other by swearing on the Bible. The Bible teaches us to flee sexual immorality and impurity and to instead enjoy God’s gift of sex within the context of marriage.

Second, the declaration by Jamie that she is “a good girl.” This is the conclusion of someone who either is ignorant of or does not recognize God as the transcendent source of objective moral values. The Bible declares “No one is good but God alone” (Luke 18:19). Good is grounded in the very nature of God and the God of the Bible declares that immorality is not good for us.

Third, the promotion of the old Gnostic belief that it does not matter what a person does with their body since their spirit is all that matters. To the gnostic, sin is no big deal. Gnostic dualism leads to immorality and licentiousness, which the Bible condemns.

This post is not intended to be a movie review, only a few quick comments on the disturbing Bible App scene in this movie — another Hollywood jab at Christianity. Nevertheless, I see no benefits in spending good money to watch Friends With Benefits.

Note | Interestingly, this week’s memory verse at Kingsland is 3 John 11 — “Beloved, do not imitate evil but imitate good. Whoever does good is from God; whoever does evil has not seen God.”


  1. Omar, thanks for pointing this out. It is crazy for the unbiblical worldview to be based on the Bible. How does a person think they swear on the Bible to do something the Bible condemns? Crazy stuff, O. Thanks for the blog!

  2. Good word. Thanks.

  3. You can get the swear app from iTunes app store it’s called “take an oath” or get it at

    • Interesting. Seems like there really is an app for just about anything!

  4. Thank you for this review. Good to know I wasn’t the only one disturbed. And they should have just used the oath app instead. there indeed is an apt app. Shalom!

  5. Thank you for saying that I was bored n it was the only DVD I hadn’t seen 1oo0 times so I watch friends with benefits n I was EXTREMELY offended at that bible scene… so much so tht i shut it off. the only reason to put that in there is to *!#@ on the creator n to teach others it’s ok n a lot of other reasons I’m not ganna type in this box but I’m glad someone else was appauld besides myself

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